“Where your attention goes, your energy flows and life grows.” – Brian Bacon
George Santayana, an influential thinker of the 20th century, once said: “Those who do not remember the past are condemned to repeat it.” This popular quote is often presented as admonishment for not making the same mistake twice. But what if, instead, you want to recreate your previous successes? Shouldn’t you remember the past then so that you can repeat it? Remembering our successes is one way to give ourselves a much needed boost to achieve our next challenge!
Do you dwell on failures OR focus on successes?
“Maybe the art of life is to convert tough times to great experiences: We can choose to hate the rain or dance in it.” – Joan Marques
Did you ever notice that when something upsets you — and you focus on it — that you get more upset? It is like a snowball rolling down a hill. But if you shift your attention and try to look at the situation differently, you can change both your mindset and your mood. While the nature of the mind is to think, we have the ability to refocus, reframe, and redirect our thoughts.
What is your habit? Do you tend to remain stuck OR are you able to change your perspective?
“Having a strong sense of controlling one’s life is a more dependable predictor of positive feelings of well-being than any of the objective conditions of life we have considered.” – Angus Campbell
When we travel in a car, we have options. We can sit in the driver’s seat, grasp the steering wheel and guide the car’s movements to our chosen destination. Or we can sit in a more passive role in the passenger’s seat or back seat and let the driver set the course. Moving through life is a bit like that too. We can take a more active role in directing and controlling our life path or give up our power and play a supporting role to someone else’s vision and dreams.
Do you tend to be an active agent OR a passive victim?
“Once you separate the person from the problem you can both team up and attack the problem together, instead of attacking each other.” – Marelisa Fabrega
Conflict is inevitable in life and how we handle it when it arises is both art and skill. In order to solve a problem, it is important not to demean or embarrass the person with whom we are tangling. So, we must choose our words carefully. Once words leave our mouth, it is impossible to take them back. As the popular television personality Dr. Phil counsels: “It takes a thousand ‘Atta boy’s to erase one ‘You’re an idiot, you’re worthless, you’re no good.'”
Do you tend to be hard on the person OR be hard on the problem?
“The follower who is willing to speak out shows precisely the kind of initiative that leadership is made of.” – Warren Bennis
It would be difficult, if not nearly impossible, to count the crimes committed with people looking the other way. People actually witness everything from petty crimes to outright genocide and do nothing about it. It is easier to conform, not make waves, support the status quo than to act outside of the group and draw attention, scrutiny, judgement and even criticism – even when a crime has been committed.
Think about your life. Do you blindly follow OR lead!